Probably the most dangerous kind of relationship is the Sweet Talker that you meet online. My friend Karin just had a terrible experience with one of these. He promised her the moon and the stars and then just disappeared.
When Karin first met this guy online she thought he was everything that she would ever want in a man. The main thing she liked about him is that he encouraged her to open up to her. With him she felt comfortable enough to talk about her past. It turns out that during all of these candid confessional sessions about her past that he was just information gathering. At least that is my theory. I think he was garnering the info he needed to manipulate her so he could get off on hurting her later.
I watched this relationship progress and I have even sat beside Karin on the computer and related to him while he joked with her, showed concern and made all kinds of promises to make her happy. His main promise was to not break her heart the way all of the others did. He promised not to be like all of the rest.
Karin talked to Alexander (that was his name) every day for almost three months. He was her touchstone, her reason for living and the person that gave her a reason to wake up in the morning. Then one day when she yahooed him – he just didn’t respond.
At first we thought it was a technical glitch but this silence went on and on. After about eight days she gave in and called his home long distance. All she kept getting was the answering machine. Then about a week later she found out that he had removed her from his Yahoo list and blocked her name.
In a panic Karin got on a plane and went to his home. She was convinced that she had to find out what exactly it was that she did to make him change his mind about her so fast. She took all of the responsibility for how he was treating her and blamed herself.
When she arrived at his apartment she rang and rang his bell until he answered the door. He wouldn’t even let her in. He had no explanation. He had no reason for his behavior. He just told her to go away. He tells her to leave her alone and that it is over.
All I have to say after this is watch out for the Sweet Talkers. They could be setting you up for a big fall. My friend Karin can’t believe what happened. One minute he was talking about having marriage and kids with her and the next he was going “to what do I owe the pleasure of your acquaintance.” Even worse she spent a big whack of money trying to find out what was wrong only to be treated like a common stalker. She has been going around for days with a broken heart. She is also deeply embarrassed because by default, this Sweet Talker has made her into liar. How could someone who seemed to be so great, turn out to be such a creep? So be careful of that sweet talker online.