Whether it’s something small like what shirt to buy or something big like what job to accept or whether or not to buy an expensive dress, does your internal dialogue sound something like this?
“Hmm, okay, which one will get me more en?”
If it does, then you’re going down a very dangerous road. Even if you have some success with this approach, you’ll be a slave to it for the rest of your life. You’re coming from a place of scarcity and your life is revolving around it.
If you keep doing what you’re doing you’ll keep getting what you’re getting…which is probably inconsistent success with men…at best!
Here’s how I make my decisions:
When I’m looking at new clothes, my decision to buy a particular item is NOT based on how much MORE I will get laid or how men might DIG it or how it might make a great conversation starter. I make the decision based on whether I LIKE it…period.
When I’m looking at a new car (my decision to buy is NOT based on whether men will think I’m doing well financially and want to sleep with me. I make the decision based on whether I LIKE it.
When I’m at a club, my decision to buy a lot of booze is NOT based on how many men I can lure over with free drinks, get drunk and trick I him to getting physical with me. I make the decision based on having a place to hang out and having drinks at my fingertips.
I think you get the idea.
Short of taking a shower, using deodorant and mouthwash, no decision you make should be based on whether the correct one will get men to like you MORE.
What I’m saying is that the next time you have a decision to make, it should be made based on how it’s going to please you as a person that likes herself or even himself is the most attractive to the opposite sex.