Hard Wired Instincts

You have probably heard again and again how men have hard wired instincts, how they are like alpha dogs and they only want one thing – sex!

Men don’t know it but women’s self help books on attraction, dating and hooking a man are filled with descriptions of us as being helpless victims of our instincts. Men’s hard-wired instincts are more famous. Every woman knows they have to be trained and disciplined like dogs or else we will attempt to have sex with anything that moves. It might be true but you don’t have to let yourself be manipulated because of it. If a man had his way he would have sex with as many women as without having to marry a single one of them.

Oh I am sure that when some find the right woman he will marry her but that opportunity doesn’t seem to naturally present it self that often. In the meantime many men are quite happy to play the field and date as many women as often as they want and as often as they please. As a woman I am not going to argue too much with this even though I hate it because what can I do about it? Men act like dogs and it is futile for me to fight that.

So how are some men able to do this even though they are uglier than sin? How are some of these men able to convince hundreds of women that I am the best thing since James Bond with a martini in a hot tub?

It is important to realize that women have hardwired instincts too – urges that they can’t seem to help. One of them is that woman want what other women want. Notice how no woman wants a guy that is not already somehow “taken.” This is the woman’s hard-wired instinct at work.

There is some really hard research to back up this theory. Long ago when we were cave people many women simply died in childbirth. Wild beasts while on the hunt would also eat males. The only way to keep mankind thriving was for a male to have multiple partners.

Have you ever wondered why the woman who has an unfaithful partner just seems to want him more and more? Watch women who have been dumped by men – they will obsess over just one guy and even ignore perfectly nice guys who approach them while savoring the memory of this one jerk who has betrayed them again and again.

So why do women do this? Why do they love the bastard and treat the nice guy like a piece of gum on the bottom of their stiletto shoe.

It is because women are hard wired to see the unfaithful male as the strongest male in the human herd. Sad but true. Just keeping this one principle in mind – woman want what other woman — can go a long way towards helping you feed the most God awful of men the delusion that you are the greatest thing since George Clooney, Brad Pitt and Antonio Banderas all rolled up into one.

 

Brit’s Actor

When I date I’ve never had too much of a problem with big egos, but my girlfriend Brit just broke up with maybe the biggest ego of all time. I only met him once, but it was the kind of thing you don’t forget and right away I asked her what her problem was, hanging onto this guy for over like five minutes, let alone the two or three months she dated him.

They met on the Net on a couples site I don’t use anymore because of a few disasters too many. Brit was talking about him for like three weeks before they actually met, going on and on about how he was an actor and she’d never dated an actor before. I kept asking what she’d seen him in, or if there was anything about him I could look up, but she said he was sketchy on the details. Still, she totally believed him and the photos he sent her did look pretty good.

Ater they got together a few times she was still excited, if also a bit confused. She liked him but she told me he never once asked her anything about herself, like, not even once on three dates. But she kept going out with him because he thought he was the hottest thing going. I think a lot of you know where this kind of thing leads, and it’s never good, is it. Or you’re really lucky if it does work out. So I met him when I hooked up with both of them at a movie. Brit was right about him being kind of hot, but he wasn’t exactly Brad Pitt, and anyway I was just concerned about the way he treated my friend, that was it. I was with an old friend (a cool guy I used to date), but he didn’t say much to us beyond introductions. After the movie we went to a bar and suddenly he opened up, but not in a good way. It was all about him, of course.

As for acting, he didn’t have much to say about his experience but he sure had a whole lot to say about his abilities! He kept saying “I’m a triple threat, I’m a triple threat!” over and over, until we finally got him to explain just what that meant, and he just about barked it out: “I can SING, I can ACT and I can DANCE!” It’s an amazing thing to have all three, but he just came off like a lot of hot air and then he became really annoyed when we started asking him about his “credits”, movies or television, that kind of thing. He told us we wouldn’t understand his “vision” anyway, so that sort of became his excuse for not admitting to us that he was either a bad actor or an unsuccessful one anyway.

Brit didn’t last too much longer with him. I don’t want to give actors a bad name or anything, but this particular one? I bet he can’t even remember Brit’s name. That’s how into himself he was. So it wouldn’t hurt to tread carefully when you date an “artist”..;)!