My Complicated Lover

Okay so I broke down and went online and posted a personal ad in a public online forum. Right away I got a response from Ted. He made me laugh so I replied. For the last ten days we have been exchanging some pretty witty and romantic emails.

He was literate, intelligent and is completing a Ph.D in psychology. I just thought I was dealing with a really nice man.

As we only live a couple of minutes from each other we began exchanging emails and agreed to meet. Of course before I agreed to meet him I checked up on his status. He assured me that he was totally single and just had some “aunties” that he checked in with now and then.

He tells me to meet him at a lobster palace by the ocean. I get there early and darn it if he doesn’t show. It is cold, raining and the place smells like wet sand and dead fish. I get fed up and leave. However first I text him and tell him I am going into town and that if he wants he can meet me in a hotel lounge bar where I am much more comfortable.

Just as I arrive at the hotel lounge he tells me that he has arrived at the seafood palace and that he is there with a bunch of friends. Haplessly he tells me that he can’t just leave his friends and that he will link up with me as soon as he can. Every half hour or so he would message me from the seafood place to tell me he was on his way. Fortunately for me I met up with some friends at the hotel bar so I did not have to be too bored.

He finally shows up at one in the morning and at first I am furious. But then I saw how good looking and kind he is in person and I just melt. We spent all night cozier up in a corner of the lounge talking and then we go to my place, make love and spend all night in each other’s arms talking some more. The next morning he even made me breakfast. I thought I was falling in love.

The next day I was really happy. We corresponded by email all week long and then on Friday when he had not made firm plans to see me again I made up a business excuse so I could go to his neighborhood. I asked if I could stay with him and repeat our romantic interlude from the previous weekend. Keep in mind here that I am not a gullible woman and that he did a pretty fine job of pretending to be interested in me.

When I ask him if I can stay with him he tells me that there are complications. When I ask what kind of complications it turns out that one of his “aunties” is staying with him. When I ask why that is a bad thing he tells me that the “auntie” is actually his ex girlfriend that he still goes out with.

Of course I had to drop him and it wasn’t easy. Now I am more than a little sad!