Reading Body Language

January 15, 2014

While on the casual date that you met on CasualD.com you can tell by looking at amen’s body language if she is likely to sleep with you or not.

You can also control your body language so it gives her the message that you are attracted to him.

As far as attraction goes, here’s how he gets the message from you:

· 55% is through body language

· 38% is the tone and speed of your voice

· only 7% is through what you say

It works the exact opposite of how you’ve been taught.

Is there any one posture that you should adopt while trying to pick up a man?

Lean back and cross your arms, but also lean in at the right times, pulling back as if you’re teasing him. You’re letting him know non-verbally that she has to convince you to be interested in her.

You can also gage his interest in you by observing the following body language –

1. He leans her body into yours.

Many omen unconsciously tilt their body in your direction when they are interested in you. Their knees and shoulders will be pointing at you or their fingers. Some men swivel their upper torso in towards you while crossing their legs.

2. He makes lots of eye contact.

If amen is interested he will make lots of eye contact with you. Sometimes if you try to make eye contact he will look away rapidly.

When you look into their eyes, everything you say sounds more important and means more to them. Remember, you’re trying to be unique. Visualize what most guys would do and do the exact opposite.

3. He blushes when you look at him.

If the man you are with is blushing a lot it means she is really attracted to you.

4. He plays with your personal items.

If a man is attracted to you she will do things like pick up your lighter or play with your fork in order to get your attention. He may even play with your sleeve. This can be a precursor to actually holding your hand.

5. He does not seem hungry.

If a man is sexually attracted to you she may have trouble eating in front of you. He may pick at her food and instead focus on talking to you or smoke a cigarette. Sexual arousal has the effect of cutting their appetitive. Also many men feel that they look unattractive when they are eating so they will not do it in front of someone they are trying to seduce. Women will do the same thing by the way. For some reason sexual arousal can just make you feel self-conscious about eating.

Usually if it is a man who is worth his salt he will make some kind of advance. The one I like best is when they put their hand on the small of your back as if to reassure you they will be there. It is a very respectful yet at the same time tender and sexual gesture.

 

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Springing For A Matchmaking Service

November 21, 2013

One of my best friends is my sister’s ex and he is a pretty nice guy. We went to school together and I was a few years behind him. He happens to be a top chef in one of the nicest hotels around here and he has done quite well for himself.

Still, despite his success he hasn’t met the right woman. He tried dating online like me for a while but he has had nothing but bad luck with that as well (just like me.) The last woman he dated claimed to be a wealthy widow and then he caught her stealing subway fare out of his restaurant till. He also dated a woman who said she was an artist and instead turned out to be this whacked out manic-depressive who did not leave him alone for months. He had to eventually get a restraining order because she pitched a tent outside his restaurant.

Anyhow, Richard (not his real name) decided to leave the trenches of online dating for good. Instead he just paid an online mating service fifteen thousand dollars to match him up with ten quality women. I am just aghast that he would put up that kind of cash to meet a woman but he says it is worth it if he can find the right partner – “a soul mate that will be the last face I see when I die.”

The idea is that these people do all the sleuthing and matching up for you. People have to pass rigorous tests before they can join and rigorous background checks are performed. Ricardo hired them specifically because of the background check because he is sick of women telling him they have degrees when they don’t, that they are divorced when they are not and lying about what they do for a living. Of course I tell him they are lying to impress him because he is a bit of a celebrity around here but being the honest, straightforward and talented person that he is he is not impressed by this.

I on the other hand am not that impressed by how much this type of service costs. And only ten dates for fifteen thousand dollars. These women better be wealthy! Can’t they lower the price a bit and get you the same kind of quality person. Or is searching for a Heart of Gold actually worth its weight in gold when it comes to matchmaker prices?

Whether the meeting happened on the Internet or the corner cafe, one fact remains: In the search for happily ever after, we’ve all had a date with disaster. What remains to be seen if is this matchmaking company will succeed in helping Richard find the partner he needs. I will be sure to keep you posted in this space about what happens to Richard and whether or not this type of service is worth it. By the way just so you don’t lose all hope if you are a woman sometimes you can join these services for free.

 

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How Sensuous Are You?

December 12, 2012

I have really been enjoying writing these little quizzes. Try this one out which determines how sensual you really are

1. Which of the animals below do you most identify with the most:

A. A magnificent soaring eagle.

B. A fat bristly pig

C. A furry kitten

D. A long slimy snake

2. Which of the following four colors do you prefer to look at if you had to look at a single color all day long?

A. Blue

B. Black

C. Pink

D. Red

3. Which of these four fabrics do you prefer to feel against your skin?

A. Cotton

B. Leather

C. Velvet

D. Rubber

4. Which of these four disgusting habits do you find the least offensive?

A. Forgetting to shave one’s legs

B. Picking one’s nose

C. Forgetting to brush one’s teeth

D. Farting in bed

5. Which of the following substances would you most like to take a bath in:

A. lavender

B. chocolate

C. glitter

C. Jello

Now calculate your score! A is 1 point, B is 3 points, C is 2 points and D is 5 points.

0-15 You are about as sensual as Martha Stewart having a bad day in court.

15-20 You let magazines and TV tell you what is sensual .. going through the motions.

20 -25 You’re very sensual and sensitive to your lovers needs.

25-30 Your tastes are so exotic, that others might find you a bit rude! In fact rude enough to kick you right out of bed.

 

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Bad Marriage Equals Heart Trouble

November 6, 2011

It may be that the broken heart is not just a metaphor. There have been some studies done that say that a bad relationship can lead to real heart trouble.

A bad marriage cannot only break your heart but according to a story aired on CNN it can also cause physical heart trouble. The Archives of National Medicine in the U.K. Published a study done at the University of Medicine in London about the effect of toxic relationships on the heart and found that you were more likely to have heart attacks or other types of problems if you can’t get along with the opposite sex.

The study was done on a whopping 9,011 British civil servants, most of them married. Their love lives were examined over a period of twelve years. Those with the worst close relationships were 34 percent more likely to have heart attacks or other heart trouble during the 12 years of follow-up than those with good relationships. That study included partners, close relatives and friends.

This news of course greatly depresses me because I here as a young woman having bad date after bad date. After each bad date my tension level goes up which is bad for your heart. I also get disappointed and depressed and sometimes gorge on foods that are bad for me which is also not good for the heart. Sometimes I get a really bad case of “what’s the point?” which has me lying in bed all day. This contributes to a lack of exercise and then fatness and then … an early heart attack.

When I fight with a member of the opposite sex I don’t like the way I feel. I can feel my heart beating. I often feel nauseous and sometimes I feel so mad I feel like I could faint. As men don’t like female anger I rarely express it. However bottling up your anger might be one of the worst things a woman can do for her heart.

Another study that was published in the journal Psychosomatic Medicine reported that women who kept silent during domestic fights were more likely to die early then those that didn’t. The study was done on 4000 people in a ten-year period. If this isn’t the justification for hitting the wife beater back I don’t know what is. What a great motivation for getting out of a bad relationship as well. It is actually bad for your health! Unfortunately lots of women I know like the things that are bad for their health including crash dieting, cigarettes and relationships with boors who abuse them both physically and mentally. Telling a woman that her relationship with this guy who is a beater or who is not that into her is bad for her heart is a bit of overkill for this type of women. This is because she will always think of herself last and put the guy first.

Staying single is looking better and better.

 

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