Springing For A Matchmaking Service

November 21, 2013

One of my best friends is my sister’s ex and he is a pretty nice guy. We went to school together and I was a few years behind him. He happens to be a top chef in one of the nicest hotels around here and he has done quite well for himself.

Still, despite his success he hasn’t met the right woman. He tried dating online like me for a while but he has had nothing but bad luck with that as well (just like me.) The last woman he dated claimed to be a wealthy widow and then he caught her stealing subway fare out of his restaurant till. He also dated a woman who said she was an artist and instead turned out to be this whacked out manic-depressive who did not leave him alone for months. He had to eventually get a restraining order because she pitched a tent outside his restaurant.

Anyhow, Richard (not his real name) decided to leave the trenches of online dating for good. Instead he just paid an online mating service fifteen thousand dollars to match him up with ten quality women. I am just aghast that he would put up that kind of cash to meet a woman but he says it is worth it if he can find the right partner – “a soul mate that will be the last face I see when I die.”

The idea is that these people do all the sleuthing and matching up for you. People have to pass rigorous tests before they can join and rigorous background checks are performed. Ricardo hired them specifically because of the background check because he is sick of women telling him they have degrees when they don’t, that they are divorced when they are not and lying about what they do for a living. Of course I tell him they are lying to impress him because he is a bit of a celebrity around here but being the honest, straightforward and talented person that he is he is not impressed by this.

I on the other hand am not that impressed by how much this type of service costs. And only ten dates for fifteen thousand dollars. These women better be wealthy! Can’t they lower the price a bit and get you the same kind of quality person. Or is searching for a Heart of Gold actually worth its weight in gold when it comes to matchmaker prices?

Whether the meeting happened on the Internet or the corner cafe, one fact remains: In the search for happily ever after, we’ve all had a date with disaster. What remains to be seen if is this matchmaking company will succeed in helping Richard find the partner he needs. I will be sure to keep you posted in this space about what happens to Richard and whether or not this type of service is worth it. By the way just so you don’t lose all hope if you are a woman sometimes you can join these services for free.

 

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Bad Marriage Equals Heart Trouble

November 6, 2011

It may be that the broken heart is not just a metaphor. There have been some studies done that say that a bad relationship can lead to real heart trouble.

A bad marriage cannot only break your heart but according to a story aired on CNN it can also cause physical heart trouble. The Archives of National Medicine in the U.K. Published a study done at the University of Medicine in London about the effect of toxic relationships on the heart and found that you were more likely to have heart attacks or other types of problems if you can’t get along with the opposite sex.

The study was done on a whopping 9,011 British civil servants, most of them married. Their love lives were examined over a period of twelve years. Those with the worst close relationships were 34 percent more likely to have heart attacks or other heart trouble during the 12 years of follow-up than those with good relationships. That study included partners, close relatives and friends.

This news of course greatly depresses me because I here as a young woman having bad date after bad date. After each bad date my tension level goes up which is bad for your heart. I also get disappointed and depressed and sometimes gorge on foods that are bad for me which is also not good for the heart. Sometimes I get a really bad case of “what’s the point?” which has me lying in bed all day. This contributes to a lack of exercise and then fatness and then … an early heart attack.

When I fight with a member of the opposite sex I don’t like the way I feel. I can feel my heart beating. I often feel nauseous and sometimes I feel so mad I feel like I could faint. As men don’t like female anger I rarely express it. However bottling up your anger might be one of the worst things a woman can do for her heart.

Another study that was published in the journal Psychosomatic Medicine reported that women who kept silent during domestic fights were more likely to die early then those that didn’t. The study was done on 4000 people in a ten-year period. If this isn’t the justification for hitting the wife beater back I don’t know what is. What a great motivation for getting out of a bad relationship as well. It is actually bad for your health! Unfortunately lots of women I know like the things that are bad for their health including crash dieting, cigarettes and relationships with boors who abuse them both physically and mentally. Telling a woman that her relationship with this guy who is a beater or who is not that into her is bad for her heart is a bit of overkill for this type of women. This is because she will always think of herself last and put the guy first.

Staying single is looking better and better.

 

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Stop Saying You Are Fat

July 11, 2009

Ladies you are lying through your teeth all over the dating sites on the Internet again. Studies and first person anecdotes all over the web are saying that tons of women are claiming to be skinny when they are building like brick you know what houses. You are putting up pictures of yourself where you look really thin or even worse really old picots.

Many males say they feel like they are typical or shallow but they are sick of being fooled by women who say they are thin when really they are not. In fact misrepresenting your weight and body type has become a real art for some women. Why you would want to do this to them is a mystery to the men who do not appreciate the distortion of the facts especially when they are repulsed completely by big flabby women. They end up having to suffer through a date with you to be polite (and some do not even bother to do that.)

The problem seems to be with the automatic fill in fields in which you might be required to check a box that identifies your body type. All of these women represent themselves as “average” in size when really they are plus size. Some men go out on date after successive date with women who have said they are small framed or thin and have things hanging, bulging and drooping every where. Here’s a clue – if you have pouches of fat hanging over your kneecaps you are not “average.”

A male friend of mine was complaining about how some women were identifying average lately and I suggested to him that maybe there are a lot of women out there now that that thing 5 foot 4 at eighty pounds is the new average. Many men think about 5’7 and 130 pounds should be the average but this does not reflect how large American women have become in the past ten years.

Conversely women have the same problem only it is usually a man that lists their age as 25 when they are clearly in their mid thirties. Sometimes is really bad. You can see a chicken wattle beneath the man’s neck in his picture on his profile as he stands there wearing his white shoes next to his red corvette.

You know if you are a really fat woman there are many sites online that specialize in matching up plus size women with the men that adore them. Mostly these men are from Asian and Eastern cultures where a heavier woman is more adored. However this will spare you all the trouble of becoming emotionally upset when the man that thinks you are too fat rejects you.

 

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Speed Dating Games

December 6, 2007

Can you really meet the man or women of your dreams after just a few minutes of casual chit-chat? That’s the premise behind speed dating.

The best way to describe speed dating is as a cross between a job interview, a blind date and a game of musical chairs. Participants get three to eight minutes, depending on where you are playing the game and to meet scores of different potential partners. With speed dating you can meet as many as twenty-five people (in one session.

The idea get to meet a number of strangers within the safety of a friendly and merry environment that is policed by the organizers. At the end of the night you can ask a partner for a date, but a date only takes place if the other person is agreed.

You are advised to turn down speed dating events that are too publicly advertised or take place in a bar that is known for its wild antics. Often, with this type of heavily promoted speed dating venture, you run the risk of having an audience gawk at you while you meet potential partners.

Always check out the venue before you attend an event to make sure that you are not part of a public spectacle. Speed dating that is held at a church or community venue is probably your safest bet when it comes to privacy, tact and anonymity.

Speed dating probably best suits busy careerists who would benefit from meeting as many people as they can within a short period of time. Speed dating suits health professionals and individuals who work off-hours, such as waitresses, shift-workers, and health professionals. It’s good for those who always find themselves working the traditional date nights such as Friday and Saturday night.

Speed dating also benefits those who are looking for a more serious relationship, as it is understood that these functions are for individuals who are looking for a long-term connection. If you are sick of the immaturity or addictions that come hand-in-hand with people you meet in bars and clubs then this might be a more efficient way to meet someone who is not intent on wasting your time with their emotional problems.

I am not so sure this mating sport is for me. It is a bit stiff. Still it sounds fun and like a great way to save time. The problem with blind dates and personals is that they do not satisfy a very crucial requirement needed in order for two people to hit it off and see each other again: physical attraction and chemistry. Speed dating allows you to meet in person and see if the two of you actually click. You are not required to waste the time that you would meeting someone on a blind date. On a blind date, many squander hours of time being courteous to an individual they would rather just get away from.

 

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