Bad Marriage Equals Heart Trouble

November 6, 2011

It may be that the broken heart is not just a metaphor. There have been some studies done that say that a bad relationship can lead to real heart trouble.

A bad marriage cannot only break your heart but according to a story aired on CNN it can also cause physical heart trouble. The Archives of National Medicine in the U.K. Published a study done at the University of Medicine in London about the effect of toxic relationships on the heart and found that you were more likely to have heart attacks or other types of problems if you can’t get along with the opposite sex.

The study was done on a whopping 9,011 British civil servants, most of them married. Their love lives were examined over a period of twelve years. Those with the worst close relationships were 34 percent more likely to have heart attacks or other heart trouble during the 12 years of follow-up than those with good relationships. That study included partners, close relatives and friends.

This news of course greatly depresses me because I here as a young woman having bad date after bad date. After each bad date my tension level goes up which is bad for your heart. I also get disappointed and depressed and sometimes gorge on foods that are bad for me which is also not good for the heart. Sometimes I get a really bad case of “what’s the point?” which has me lying in bed all day. This contributes to a lack of exercise and then fatness and then … an early heart attack.

When I fight with a member of the opposite sex I don’t like the way I feel. I can feel my heart beating. I often feel nauseous and sometimes I feel so mad I feel like I could faint. As men don’t like female anger I rarely express it. However bottling up your anger might be one of the worst things a woman can do for her heart.

Another study that was published in the journal Psychosomatic Medicine reported that women who kept silent during domestic fights were more likely to die early then those that didn’t. The study was done on 4000 people in a ten-year period. If this isn’t the justification for hitting the wife beater back I don’t know what is. What a great motivation for getting out of a bad relationship as well. It is actually bad for your health! Unfortunately lots of women I know like the things that are bad for their health including crash dieting, cigarettes and relationships with boors who abuse them both physically and mentally. Telling a woman that her relationship with this guy who is a beater or who is not that into her is bad for her heart is a bit of overkill for this type of women. This is because she will always think of herself last and put the guy first.

Staying single is looking better and better.

 

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Acting Weird in Public

May 24, 2010

Nothing drives me crazier than a guy that is one way with you in public and another in private. I just had a really bad experience with one of those/

HIs name was Glen. He was smart, brilliant, witty and hard working. He paid me lots of attention and after taking a few long walks together in a park, I thought he liked me. I really did. When he was around me, he just seemed to glow. I thought I was somone special to him. I really did.

To make things even more perverse considering what he ended up doing to me, we were fooling around. We spent the last few weekends together. Being him was like playing with the best little boy. We even played tent under my covers with flashlights. He couldn’t be kinder, gentler or closer to me than he is in private.

Then I decided to ask Glen to come to a party with me. Well, we both get

really dressed up and we go to the party, and I am not too worried, even

Though Glen seems to be a little distracted and distant.

I ask him if there is anything wrong and he doesn’t say anything, so I think he is just tired. I figure he is just nervous about the party. I notice though that unlike most times that we are together he doesn’t seem to want to hold my hand. Another strange thing is that when I introduce him to the hostess, he acts like he does not know me at all and is just kind of tagging along. My friend, the hostess, ended up looking at me very strangely as I had been telling her how great he was and now he was treating me like crap.

Anyway at one point I go to the bathroom. I was gone for less than FIVE

MINUTES. When I returned, he was sitting in an armchair, with another

Woman, a complete stranger sitting in his lap. This woman was rubbing up

against chest and cooing in his ear. This went on for about ten minutes while I

just stood there wondering what to do.

When I finally worked up the nerve to approach Glen to say “Oh hello. Remember me?” he completely ignored me and the woman just smiled at me in that Cheshire cat kind of way. That is when I decided to leave.

Later, when I got home, he phoned me to ask me what my problem was? When I told him he was rude and that we were on a date, he scoffed and told me I suffered from distorted thinking and that we were just friends and that he did not “do dates” with women who were just friends to him. Next time, I will ask for the guy to confirm in writing that we are actually on a date before we go…

 

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Remember You Are The Prize

September 16, 2009

When you are dating it is women that do not think much of themselves in the first place who lose. You need to believe that you already have a greater level of success before you even leave the house for a date. Unfortunately many women leave the house to go to a singles bar or try to find a date with this I am a loser mentality. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy because it is a turn off.

Girls tart acting like you’re invincible. In other words, you should be walking around like it’s already happening to you. Walk in like you own the place and if you’re not going to talk to men right away, then be committed to a conversation with a friend.

Men can’t stand it when you’re looking directly at a friend and talking and not scanning the room like every other guy. It makes you stand out. It builds attraction. They become jealous. It is something really Neanderthal and jealous in them that makes them want to be number one.

This means looking occupied and committed when you talk to men. Any men. This is so that by the time you interact with them they are already attracted. It is like shooting fish in a barrel. If you keep it fun short and firefly it will drive them even crazier. Before you know it men will start lining up to talk to you.

This is because you will be doing what most women can’t do because they are so desperate. Most other girls were looking around the room for targets – the single guy –when they wake in the room. All we did was have a committed conversation and have fun. No work, lots of return.

You saw how being friendly gets you everywhere and can turn any evening into an extraordinary one. Just by having this confidence and relaxed attitude, women will approach you and do all the work. If you’re friendly and ask questions you won’t have to worry about what to say next. They’ll do all the talking.

Remember, simple is better than complicated. “What’s up?” “What’s happening over here?”, “Why haven’t you called me?” or “I’m your dancer” always works better than a long, drawn out, story. It’s as if you’re not hitting on them. This causes them to lower their defenses and they don’t see you coming until they’re already attracted.

Act as if this is already your life. I can see it inside of you; it’s lying right below the surface. You deserve this life where men adore you, want you and must have you. The more that you maintain this sort of attitude which is very hard for women to do as we are taught from birth to be demure and to hang our heads and be shame based the more he is going to see you as exceptional and as a trophy that must be won.

Remember, you’re the prize!

 

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Stop Saying You Are Fat

July 11, 2009

Ladies you are lying through your teeth all over the dating sites on the Internet again. Studies and first person anecdotes all over the web are saying that tons of women are claiming to be skinny when they are building like brick you know what houses. You are putting up pictures of yourself where you look really thin or even worse really old picots.

Many males say they feel like they are typical or shallow but they are sick of being fooled by women who say they are thin when really they are not. In fact misrepresenting your weight and body type has become a real art for some women. Why you would want to do this to them is a mystery to the men who do not appreciate the distortion of the facts especially when they are repulsed completely by big flabby women. They end up having to suffer through a date with you to be polite (and some do not even bother to do that.)

The problem seems to be with the automatic fill in fields in which you might be required to check a box that identifies your body type. All of these women represent themselves as “average” in size when really they are plus size. Some men go out on date after successive date with women who have said they are small framed or thin and have things hanging, bulging and drooping every where. Here’s a clue – if you have pouches of fat hanging over your kneecaps you are not “average.”

A male friend of mine was complaining about how some women were identifying average lately and I suggested to him that maybe there are a lot of women out there now that that thing 5 foot 4 at eighty pounds is the new average. Many men think about 5’7 and 130 pounds should be the average but this does not reflect how large American women have become in the past ten years.

Conversely women have the same problem only it is usually a man that lists their age as 25 when they are clearly in their mid thirties. Sometimes is really bad. You can see a chicken wattle beneath the man’s neck in his picture on his profile as he stands there wearing his white shoes next to his red corvette.

You know if you are a really fat woman there are many sites online that specialize in matching up plus size women with the men that adore them. Mostly these men are from Asian and Eastern cultures where a heavier woman is more adored. However this will spare you all the trouble of becoming emotionally upset when the man that thinks you are too fat rejects you.

 

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