The Dentist Who Is A Sex Addict

March 11, 2008

What is it with dentists? Why are they all sex addicts? I have gone out with two dentists so far and had the most toxic experience with each.

The first one was this guy named Paul, who was an implantologist from Toronto with a thriving practice. He was quite a bit older than me and I knew he had kids but he told me he was divorced.

Phil and I go out to art openings and have fancy dinners and we have sex every which way is possible. Then after three weeks of I love you and passionate love making he just stops calling.

After a few civilized and then frantic calls to his office I then end up calling him at home. Instead of a call back I get an email saying that I had made too much of everything and that he was happy with his wife. This sent me into a depression for weeks on end. I probably never cried so much over a man as I did with this dentist Paul who I considered to be the love of my life.

I probably shouldn’t have opted to see yet another dentist but I was just so lonely. I had even been warned this one is a sex addict but I still did not control my impulses. He was also good looking, handsome and very rich. He was my second implantoligist and his name was Mark.

This guy also had a practice in Toronto and a woman who was his ex wife and secretary. He also had two girls from Somalia there that working as his assistants and he said that they were his daughters.

So what happens? After weeks of bliss and even a trip to Dubai for him to find better-heeled patients from the Arab World he invites me back to his house, which is supposed to be his own personal Shangri-la. They’re lying naked and making out with each other among the velvet cushions and Koi pond complete with splashing waterfalls are his ex wife and his two supposed daughters. He then told me that they were adopted and that is why he is allowed to have sex with them.

I got out of there but my reward was a punishing and brutal silence. I did not get an explanation, apology or even a begging to try it again.

In retrospect I realize that both of these dentists were real sex addicts. In fact I found out recently that foursome reason it is quite common in that profession. Apparently having lots of sex helps them boost their confidence and arrogance so they can get their jobs all day. It also helps them relieve all of the depression and tension that is apparently the result of looking inside someone’s mouth all day. In fact if you have a dentist sex addict story of some kind I would really like to hear about it.

 

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The Jealous Ex

January 18, 2008

Boys before you decide to ask anyone out on a date can you please get rid of your jealous ex? I just had the worst experience with a man who seemed to have a stalker on his tail.

Okay first of all he lied to me. He told me he was single when in fact he was still living at home with his ex girlfriend. How did I find this out? She ran after me with a kitchen knife and threw shoes at me is how.

This is how it went down. I met this guy John at a party and he said he was a lawyer and he was single. He also told me a bit about her but I had no idea they were still living together. After meeting John for coffee a few days later we decided we would go tout to see a play that my friend was in and then take it from there.

We went to the play and then out to dinner and then I drove him home. He lives in this nice stately old house in the Art Deco part of town. We go up to his front door and he tries the key. The door opens and then it shuts right in his place. Someone inside relocks the door and won’t let him in.

Before I can ask him what I sgoing on I see this face in the window and hear a voice screaming “Get off my step and away from my man you fucking bitch.” This apparently is his ex.

WE go back to my car and get in. He tells me that she is his ex and that she has nowhere to go so she is living in the downstairs aprt of his home and he is living in the upstairs and that it is still cool for me to come. Idiot that I am I decide to give this another try.,

He knocks on the door , she opens it and she has a knife in her hand. I of course see this and high tail it down the street. This is when she starts taking off her shoes. He gets into my car and hides. The next half hour is spent watching her pound the crap out of my car as if she was an ape testing a suitcase. Of course the whole time she is screaming at him while I watch from the bushes.

Finally the police come and Little Miss Frothing at the Mouth is taken away. Needless to say I just could not have a relationship with a guy under these circumstances. He sent me email after email begging fro me to understand that he really was single but quite frankly I like myself and would rather not be stabbed to death by a kitchen knife or have my eye put out by a woman hauling shoes in my direction. Until he gets rid of that jealous stalker, there will be no bookie from me?

 

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Getting Him To Call You

January 12, 2008

One of the secrets to being a successful at dating is not to get as many numbers as you can but instead to give out your number as much as possible. You don’t want to sit at home calling men all day. Let them call you!

Getting the man to call you is one of the most effective things that you can do to keep him hooked on you. This is because the person who is called has more personal power in a relationship than the person who is doing the calling. Let hemi chase you and not the other way around.

In order to accomplish this you first need to get rid of the delusion that you are somehow not in control if you do not have the man’s number.

So what if he calls you and you happen to change your mind or not be interested. Simply either ignore the call or tell him gently that you are no longer interested.

Here are five tips for getting a man’s number and responding to her call.

1. Make up a calling card.

A calling card is a little different than a business card. A business card just has your name and phone number on it. Make sure it is elegant and don’t let amen that you like leaving your company without making sure he has one and puts it in her first.

2. Approach men you like fast!

Be swift, charming and don’t give her the chance to opt out of the conversation. Be confident and lead the conversation by asking questions about him. Don’t talk about your self and while you are talking get out your calling card and make sure it ends up in her hand, pocket or purse.

3. Be unavailable.

When he does call do not return the call immediately. Let her wait two or three days.

This creates a sense of anticipation and she may be thinking that you have options with other men. This plays with her natural hard-wired instinct to be jealous.

4. Pet him on the head for calling.

If she does call and you like him make sure she knows how impressed you are that she has taken the initiative. Sound really happy to hear from her as if it is a pleasant surprise and you have been waiting until you have a moment to talk to her.

This will make her feel like he is in control of the relationship and more confident about going to bed with you when the time comes.

One of the new problems as a successful Lilith is time management, be careful what you wish for. It’s important to plan ahead for success by using techniques like ‘giving out your number’ and ‘having dates at your place’. You need to train yourself now, and get used to it, before you acquire any more bad habits such as forgetting to do the laundry in case a man comes over.

You will also need to prioritize your phone calls and set up an answering machine because you may get more phone calls then you can possibly handle! This has happened to me many times and turned my life into love life into something that practically requires project management.

 

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Getting Over Fear of Dating

January 3, 2008

Some women really fear dating. This is easy to get over. First of stop defining yourself by men who don’t matter to you anymore unless it has been constructive criticism from licensed therapists

You’ve got to be aware of your internal dialogue; you know that little voice in your head that speaks all the time? It’s probably happening right now. As you’re reading this, you have other things going on in your head. It could be related to dating or something totally different.

Your inner critic is controlling most of your interactions. Let’s be clear…YOU are not. That inner voice is flowing all the time and it’s going to throw negative thoughts at you; it’s going to try to derail you and remind you about all of the reasons that you won’t be successful with men. It is the eternal battle of the subconscious mind against the rational mind. The most civilized of beings know how to quell these self-critical thoughts.

The first step is realizing that it exists and getting control of it. Refuse to let it control your success with men. It is simply time to forget what other people think if you want to get ahead on the dating scene.

Based on your past failures, your inner voice could be telling you anyone of the following things:

This kind of thing never happens to you —

· Men don’t respond to you

· You’re not funny

· You’re not confident

· You’re not good looking

· You don’t have anything to offer

You are too fat

You are a dumb blonde/wear glasses

You are too thin

· You’re not interesting

· You’re not dressed cool enough

· Your hair looks bad

· You’re going to run out of things to say

He will be more attracted to your friends than you

It’s telling you every reason why you won’t be successful. It’s also warning you about the possible negative outcomes such embarrassment and rejecting:

When you get nervous, you fall back on behavior that feels comfortable to you. Your defense mechanism kicks in and you start manifesting the wrong events.

You are spending a lot of energy on behavior that isn’t getting you what you want that you have none left for later when you have an actual opportunity.

Your father, your best friend who had an unrequited crush from you and your ex all have a secret agenda to hurt your feelings as they all are motivated by a desire to prevent other women from spending time in your company. If you are defining yourself by negative criticism from a man who is out of our life it is time to let it go.

 

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